I pulled this drawing and poem from 2011 archives.
They speak of the heart and I think the heart of the elderly is so fragile yet so fragrant like the lilac.
No one wants to yield to old age and all the symptoms but we have little choice.
As the days grow to a sepia, let’s remember to relive yesterday with our dear parents and family members. Let’s love them for who they are today.
One of my clients a very talented musician and educator told me recently that she had been invited to tea with a world leader. And yet in all her recollections her moments now are the sweetest and she has contentment.
I sit behind closed doors. Drawing pictures of ballet dancers in pink . Crumpled piles of discards about my feet. I’m reminded of cherry blossoms in spring. They dance through the cobwebs in my head and I am outside in spring’s kaleidoscope with no Co-Vid.
Infused with sunshine
cherry blossoms kiss still waters
sparks of spring
We miss the cherry blossoms they are always so cheerful and so this week I may take a few moments and draw more ballerinas.
Hope all of you are doing well. Not sure how it is for the rest of you but I am actually happy to be home writing and creating. Most of the places where I work in hospice did a close down (which was wise) – anything to prevent a spread. Be well and write!!!
Most of my clients don’t need to pump their own water though some are on well water.
I recently got a call from adopted family in Africa. ” My wife is sick and the baby is bloated.There are no resources and no medicine and the hospitals are out of reach.”
Have your wife lay down and drink 6 bottles of water each day and give the baby spoonfuls of water. (clean water )
Dont get me wrong water is not the answer to all our problems but hydration is a huge issue for our health.
Many Elderly are not getting enough water (coffee and soda drinks do not qualify as hydrating fluids). I know a caregiver that would stop all fluids at 5 pm so there would be no night-time brief changes. That convenience puts an elderly person at risk.
Elderly people often don’t drink until they are thirsty. All of our senses diminish with ages so most seniors are not getting enough hydration.
I have seen that clients with a better diet and hydration seem to have higher function.
I am all for health for the elderly. I have had several family members who were/are chronic illness and drug free into their 90s. They were all active, ate well and water was their main fluid.
I drink about 80 oz of water each day – how about you?
Bethany has been sick with butterfly fever. No one knows how to take care of this. She does not want me to get it though I don’t think a lion can get a butterfly sickness. She is in a butterfly tree -all alone.
At first I was afraid and reminded of how lonely I was without my family. But then I heard a kind voice in the breeze.
“Judah be strong and of good courage do not fear nor be afraid of these things.”
“But how can strength and courage help when my best friend is very sick?”
“The Lord God goes with you (and with your friend). He will not leave you alone. He will not forsake her.”
“So right now God you are taking care of Bethany for me?
“Yes, Judah it is in my promise.”
“I guess courage can sometimes mean we trust God not ourselves. This butterfly sickness has me worried, but you God are stronger than any sickness!!!”
We have friends right now in many countries. The US, Uganda, other parts of Africa, the Middle East.
Some of our friends (like Bethany) are sick and cant get to the doctor. We pray for them and the God who heals and preserves those who are weak that He will be there as He promises.
Other friends can’t get food even when there is supposed to be food given to them (even in the distant villages.)
And there are those who know of the needs who have hope and a little extra food who are going to these remote areas.
Judah’s verse is found in Deuteronomy 31:6: “Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.”
I have found that working with the elderly is like digging for treasure – I am never disappointed with what I find.
There are times (especially with dementia) that we must uncover their needs or what makes them happy.
Every person has things that have meaning. It could be an activity like going to the market and remembering days gone by. With one client who was almost bed bound, I realized there were certain activities that gave her energy to get out of bed.
I first noticed change when a neighbor stopped in for a short “hello.” My client was upbeat the rest of the day.
The neighbor had brought flowers so we spent time thinking of something nice to do. We baked cookies and my client wrote a card.
The next week we made valentines for her son and her husband. Wow I noticed color in her face.
What I uncovered was she liked doing things for people.
It’s also fun to uncover things about a person that maybe no one knows.
Here are some ideas to mix up their day and keep it interesting:
Writing his/her memoir
Writing cards to friends
Folding laundry ( I have lovely conversations with my clients when doing chores)
How have you been keeping things interesting during the Co-Vid “Stay in Place”???